![]() Instead of taking his loneliness as evidence that nobody wants to talk, maybe he’s lonely because he isn’t reaching out as often anymore.Yes, he’s home alone often (not always), but he’s had friends over before, and if he doesn’t invite anyone over, does he really expect friends to just show up and invite themselves in?.Mike now challenges his negative thought patterns directly.Has he invited anyone over to his place or outside to hang out? Has he called or texted anyone lately to catch up?.Has everyone in his life actually told him that?.What about his conclusion that nobody wants to talk to him?.Is he actually always home alone, every single day?.To continue with Mike’s example above, he now considers how much of his thought is based on truth.Yes it is true I got laid off, but a lot of people got laid off during COVID-19 and I have a lot of skills and experience that make me a valuable employee. ![]() Think about which perspective is more useful to you – some ways of viewing the situation will likely cause you less stress than others.Īn easy way to practice this is by balancing a negative thought with a positive one in the form of “Yes_, but _”. Try to brainstorm other ways to interpret the same events (ask a friend to get their feedback and see how they perceive the situation). Are the things you are telling yourself objectively true? Or are they based around negative assumptions? Once you’ve identified a negative thought, ask yourself if the events that happened justify it. Instead of realizing babies sometimes cry a lot, he blames himself and thinks that he must be doing something wrong and he’s not father material. A guy has just become a new dad, but one night he can’t stop his baby from crying.
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